Is happiness big events or rather small things we do every day?
This question often appears on the path of personal development. And although it is easy to succumb to the illusion that happiness is the journey of a lifetime, a breakthrough project or a sudden surge of courage – in reality it is something much closer. These are micro-joys that – if we only allow them – become the source of macro-energy of life.
Every day we make dozens of micro-choices. These decisions – what we think, how we react, how we feed our body and mind – create our energy map. And even though it sounds simple, it is these inconspicuous moments that have a huge impact on mental health, motivation and even our physiological vitality.
Because how often do you eat something on the run that is more tiring than nourishing, or ignore the need to rest, or accept a suggestion from the outside (“you need more”, “not yet”) and put yourself off until later?
These “little things” matter. Because life energy is not something that falls from the sky. It is something that we create — day by day, gesture by gesture.
Many people in my therapy room ask: “What can I do to have more energy?”
The answer is: Notice and cultivate micro-joys.
These can be moments when you drink your morning coffee and really feel it, when you smile at your dog or cat, when you manage not to go into autopilot but react consciously, when you turn on some music and dance (even for 30 seconds!).
Mindfulness makes these moments start to gain colour, depth and meaning. And your subconscious gets a clear message: “This is good. I want more of it.”
One of the most effective techniques I use in my work is the so-called “switching perspective.” This is consciously stopping and asking yourself:
“What could be a source of good right now if I just looked at it differently?”
Maybe a traffic jam on the highway is an opportunity to finally listen to a podcast that has been waiting for weeks.
Maybe a crying child reminds you that you are the most important person in the world to someone.
Maybe tiredness is a signal from the body: “I deserve care, not just tasks.”
It is Awareness that becomes the key to ensuring that everyday life does not burn us out but charges us like the best charger.
Instead of forcing yourself to make great revolutions, it is worth starting with small changes in habits that bring joy, relaxation and lightness.
It can be 5 minutes of breathing in silence in the morning, an evening list of three things you are grateful for, a walk without a phone – just you, your breath and the trees.
Changing habits does not have to be stressful. If it is accompanied by a friendly suggestion, and not an internal whip – change comes easier. Because the body and mind work together instead of rebelling.
It is no coincidence that this month’s theme is “The energy of life in your hands: Simple ways to greater vitality and happiness.”
I want to remind you today:
You don’t have to prove anything, you don’t have to wait for the perfect moment.
Your daily micro-joys can be a source of macro-strength.
You just have to start giving them more space.
Because after all… what is small and mindful builds what is great and lasting.
With love and spark,
Beata 💛