On the Value of Respecting Differences in Relationships.
Would you agree that one of the most important elements of a lasting relationship is respect for individuality? I do, and that’s why I really like the manifesto “Let Him Be a Man. Let Her Be a Woman.” It reminds us to accept differences between the sexes.
Most of us build relationships based on equality. However, this does not mean that we must eat the same food, the same amount of it or do exactly the same work and at the same hours. On the contrary. We are different and have unique characteristics and needs.
Do you understand that men and women may have different priorities, dreams and ways of expressing themselves? By giving your partner space to be himself, you enable him to develop and fulfil his aspirations. You can expect this in return too.
I want to believe that “Let Him Be a Man. Let Her Be a Woman.” it means understanding that everyone has their own strengths and contributions to their relationship. Just because a woman is independent and passionate does not mean that a man should give up his own goals or be less active. In a relationship, a man and a woman should be supportive (each in their own way) so that they both feel understood and appreciated.
Quite a long time ago, the role of women in society has changed, improved and we are involved in various fields such as politics, science, art and social activism. Why shouldn’t men accept this as something natural?
It is true that for some of us, the challenges of changing roles often make it difficult to adapt to new social norms. The need to adapt can be both inspiring and difficult.
Some women will want to be mothers and housewives. If they come across a man who does not understand this and expects a woman to earn as much as he does, they will get tired of each other. If a man wants to have a mother of this children at home and a full-time caregiver, and a woman wants to pursue a professional career, conflicts are inevitable.
It is impossible not to mention here an issue that is still sensitive to many people: flexibility in defining family. Living here in England, I have seen a continuous increase in acceptance of various forms of family, including same-sex families. You can see here a flexible approach to the role of a parent, regardless of gender. It becomes important to understand that the role of caregiver is not exclusive to one gender.
HOW TO LET HER TO BE A WOMAN?
Being a woman is a complex and individual process that covers various aspects of life. Every woman has her own unique experiences, values and goals.
- Support her in finding and respecting herself.
- Support her in being her.
- Cheer on her self-development.
- Take care of your health together.
- Be empathetic to her.
- Build and maintain a supportive relationship with her.
- Make it easier for her to act in accordance with her values.
- Learn how to cope with her difficult days related to female hormones.
- Strive for a mutual understanding of your relationship and how you both understand your responsibilities.
- Celebrate her pride of being a woman with her.
HOW TO LET HIM TO BE A MAN:
Being a man is an individualized process that covers various aspects of life.
- Support him in finding and respecting himself.
- Admire his authenticity.
- Support his personal and professional development.
- Take care of his health, but don’t overdo it.
- Be empathetic and tender towards him.
- Be active to build and maintain your relationship with him.
- Know his values and show understanding when he follows them.
- As much as you can, support him in his unique male challenges.
- Celebrate with him the pride of being a man.
HOW TO ACHIEVE THAT?
Effective communication is irreplaceable here. Open conversations about expectations, dreams and needs allow us to better understand each other. Communication also makes it easier to get used to changes in the relationship and individual developments.
Respecting your differences does not mean giving up equality or undermining your self-worth. It’s an invitation to notice, appreciate and respect what makes your partner unique. It is also an understanding that there is room for differences and that they are a wealth, not a problem. Social values, such as equality, respect for individuality and acceptance of diversity, are milestones of any relationships. It is a shift in emphasis from traditional gender roles to understanding and cooperation.
“Let Him Be a Man. Let Her Be a Woman.” is a manifesto for relationships built on mutual respect, openness to change, the ability to find similarities and acceptance. When you have time and space to be yourself, your relationship becomes a place where you both can develop and grow as a couple. It is a call to celebrate the differences that make each of you unique. At the same time, it is an opportunity to fully use the potential of women and men in all areas of life.
I’m here to help you 😀
Beata, Someone To Talk To