August 2023 is the global ‘Don’t be a bully month’. During this month, schools, businesses, communities and individuals around the world come together to stand up against bullying.
Bullying can have a long-term effect on victims, leading to low self-esteem, depression, anxiety and even suicidal thoughts. In my practice, I have worked with children, teenagers and even adults who have had such experiences. I believe that these cases are 100% preventable.
That’s why I joined to make noise around the topic to stop the bullying.
Too often, the witnesses of bullying remain silent. We do not comment on the wounds caused by abuse. We accept the stalker’s explanation that ‘it’s just banter’.
It doesn’t have to be this way. We can choose respect and unity. We can work to increase peace in the world.
As a reminder, bullying is a mix of behaviours and effects. It is the use of force, coercion, painful teasing or threats. It’s something someone does that affects you and your ability to feel safe and in control. Bullying can stem from prejudice against others; because these others are different in some way or perceived as different. People who have been bullied for a long time may feel that no one cares.
The simple act of wearing anti-bullying colours will show those experiencing bullying that they are not alone. It can give them hope and strength to speak up and reach out for help.
The colours orange and blue worn in August symbolize your support.
Positive change comes when we start emphasizing respect and inclusion. At home, in the neighbourhood, at school, at work or in the park…
When it comes to dealing with bullying, there is not always one ‘right’ answer. Below are my suggestions. Remember that they will not be effective always and for everyone:
How to deal with a bully:
- Don’t withdraw yourself.
- Tell the right, competent person.
- Get emotional help.
- Ignore/ walk away/ pretend you don’t mind.
- Block and report bullies online.
- Keep a log of what’s going on.
- Ask them to stop.
- Use a witty, clever comeback.
- Face them.
It is worth noting that AT&T has created a list of anti-bullying applications. This is also a form of help – use it.
Now I want to give you suggestions on how you can get involved – if you choose to.
How you can get involved:
- Make ‘noise’ about bullying in your local community.
- Get involved in a “Don’t be a bully month’ at your children’s school or at your workplace.
- Commit to support ‘ Don’t be a bully month’.
- Get involved on social media.
- Talk to your family about bullying.
- Discuss ‘Don’t be a bully month’ with your friends.
I’m here to help you.
Beata